Monthly Archives: March 2014

Earned

Yes, without doubt, life is hard. It’s not easy. It’s not easy to be successful in life. It’s not easy to get straight A’s at school. It’s not easy to be the wealthiest man in the nation.

Yes, it’s hard. But it’s not impossible.

What successful people do is they work hard. They put in more effort than other people. They strive for greatness. When Michael Jordan first entered the NBA, his jump shot wasn’t good enough. He spent his off season taking hundreds of jumpers a day until it was perfect. As he puts, “Nothing of value comes without being earned.”

MJ quotes

Being persistent is another factor. Why are some people not successful? Because when they decide to do something, and they get tired, they quit. Students say they are not good at math. They’re right! Cause they have never studied. “When they say they want to get better grades, the problem is they don’t want it bad. They just kind of want it. They don’t want success as much as they want to party. They don’t want success as much as they want to be cool.” (from “How bad do you want it”)

When you feel like quitting, remind yourself why you started. Your goal. Your dream. Your vision. Don’t quit when you’re tired! Don’t quit when you feel pain. Pain is temporary! It may last a minute, an hour, a day or even a year, but eventually it will subside.

Don’t worry if you’re not getting to where you want to be. Work on your dream, one inch at a time. Don’t worry if people laugh at you and say you suck. Forget about the criticisms and hate. Cause some time later, things ain’t gonna go this way. There will be a lot of doubters in life. No matter how many times people criticize you, the best revenge is to prove them wrong.

Ask yourself, if other people can do it, why not me? Why can’t I be the best player in the NBA? Why can’t I be the best singer in my country? Why can’t I be the best?

You got a dream, go get it, period.

Note: I was inspired to write this after watching a few motivational videos. There might be some similar wordings or phrases. No copyright infringement intended.

References (They are great videos and I highly recommend them):

Mateusz M. “Why Do We Fall – Motivational Video.” Feb 21, 2013. Video. Mar 18, 2014.

Mateusz M. “Unstoppable – Motivational Video.” May 17, 2013. Video. Mar 18, 2014.

Fear is the root of the problem

Procrastination, in my opinion, is not about being lazy or sluggish. In fact, when we procrastinate we often work intensely for long stretches just before our deadlines. Working long and hard is the opposite of lazy, so that can’t be the reason we do it.

Some say they like the “rush” of leaving things till the very end and meeting a deadline. But they usually say this when they aren’t working under that deadline. They always make such statements long after cramming when they have failed to remember or even realize the negative results and problems of procrastinating.

Not to mention, leaving things to the end dramatically increases the chances something will go wrong – like getting sick or a technical computer problem – and not being able to pull off the desired grade. So, procrastination can be hard on us and actually increase our chances of failing, but we do it anyway.

Still some people claim they “do better” when they procrastinate and “work best” under high stress or pressure. Virtually everyone who offers this answer procrastinates as a habit and will not finish an important academic task until right before their deadline.

Hence, in reality, they can’t make a comparison about the circumstances under which they work best. If you always procrastinate, and never really approach your tasks systematically and in order and in an organized manner, then you can’t precisely say that you know you “do better” under pressure.

Procrastination is not a matter, purely, of having poor time management skills, either, but rather can be traced to underlying and more complex psychological reasons. This point is further proven by Professor Joseph R. Ferrari from DePaul University.

He stated that procrastinators can be classified into decision-avoiders and task-avoiders. People who delay making decisions are usually dependent on other people and rely on others to make their minds up for them. They usually blame other people when something goes wrong.

Those who delay taking action, on the contrary, make decisions, but never follow up on it. I think their reasons for delaying and avoiding the tasks ahead are rooted in fear and anxiety—about doing badly, of having no control of our outcomes, of looking dumb. After all, we often avoid doing work to avoid our abilities being judged, don’t we?

Note: The above article is an analysis of the topic and my own opinions. Any similar wordings or ideas are entirely coincidental.